The Impact of Rejection on Aggression and Performance: Insights and Strategies from a Psychologist
In a world where rejection has become a constant phenomenon, the psychological effects of such experiences can be profound. Journalist David Brooks has described rejection as a significant issue, while psychologist Roy Baumeister confirms that its impact goes beyond surface-level understanding.
The Initial Impact: Numbing and Aggression
When faced with rejection in various aspects of life, individuals often experience a sense of numbness as a defense mechanism. Baumeister refers to this as “numbing,” where the body releases substances similar to opioids to temporarily alleviate the pain. However, this numbness can lead to increased aggression and a decreased ability to connect with others, as the emotional system undergoes a rebooting process.
Diminished Empathy and Cooperation
Studies conducted by psychologists have shown that individuals tend to perform poorly on cognitive and self-control tasks after being rejected. They exhibit impulsive behavior and reduced empathy, potentially leading to decreased cooperation with others. Moreover, individuals who faced rejection in childhood may have a lower tolerance for physical pain in adulthood, indicating a long-lasting impact on the body’s response to rejection.
The Importance of Perseverance
Baumeister emphasizes that the key to overcoming rejection lies in seeking subsequent acceptance through new relationships, opportunities, or communities. Giving up after experiencing rejection is more detrimental than the rejection itself. Despite the competitive and fragile nature of social connections in today’s world, Baumeister encourages individuals to remember that rejection does not define them; it is their actions in response to rejection that truly shape their identity.
