It’s not about chemistry, it’s all about psychology: These topics will show who’s lacking social skills.
We’ve all been in that situation: It’s not about a lack of sympathy or sheer bad luck, but something deeper. Psychologist Leticia Martín Enjuto reminds us that our social skills are showcased in the way we communicate and the topics we choose to discuss.
Too much intimacy at the wrong time
Sharing too much personal information in casual situations can be a red flag. Martín Enjuto explains that this lack of filter often indicates difficulties in understanding unspoken social cues and respecting personal boundaries. It’s not always about selfishness; sometimes, it stems from anxiety or insecurity.
Circular conversations
Engaging solely in small talk about trivial matters can signal rigidity. While these conversations are great icebreakers, sticking to them limits the interaction and conveys disinterest in deepening the dialogue.
The self as the only topic
Focusing solely on oneself during conversations can be a sign of social ineptitude. The expert notes that this behavior often stems from a lack of curiosity about others or an inability to show genuine interest. When one monopolizes the conversation, it hinders others from sharing their perspectives and experiences.
Overly technical language
Steering conversations towards technical jargon or specialized topics can also indicate social deficiencies. It’s not about the complexity of the subject, but rather about assessing whether the other person shares the same level of interest or understanding.
When everything is confrontation
Martín Enjuto suggests that constantly turning conversations into confrontations may reflect mental rigidity or a need for control. Instead of exchanging ideas, one imposes their views. Likewise, filling conversations with complaints or criticisms can erode relationships due to constant negativity.
Recognizing these patterns and working on them can transform conversations into what they should be: spaces of connection and shared enjoyment.
